I hear you Antoinette! Five years ago I left a job that I loved because it simply did not pay enough, and in life – money does matter. Fortunately, I have come to love this job just as much. I admit it took some time to build the relationships that make going to work feel so good. The thing is I am a teacher, so the pay is not that phenomenal wherever I am. But one one move did give me a 30% raise.
As far as budgeting – you can budget backwards and us the 50, 20, 30 rule. 50% of take home goes to fixed costs (housing, auto, insurance), 20% goes to financial goals (retirement, savings, investments) and 30% flexible spending (eating out, entertainment, travel, and groceries). Good luck!